It's been a while since I could conjure up one of these.
Now I don't exactly wish to do this exactly but... I do wish that I could put 6'8's personality and values in Washington's body. Lol.
I like 6'8 and I'm attracted to him but he's not my physical type and he's a lot older than me. He does excite me but not visually. His seduction style (if you will) is more mental which is HOT. I love when a man can articulate himself in an intelligent way and cause my mind to go on a journey painted by his words. A man who knows how to take care of a woman.
Washington is sexy to me. He's my physical type, the age difference isn't as huge (8 compared to 20. You do the math) and we have an amazing connection and he's a great kisser (ya'll know how I feel about kissing). But our values totally don't match. We are polar opposites. And he knows how to aggravate the HELL outta me for no other reason but to F with me. Not saying that 6'8 and I agree on everything vaule wise. Even some of the things he says sometimes make me give him the side eye but we are A LOT closer in that department then me and Washington.
So is it wrong for me to wish that I could have 6'8 personality, values, and dirty mind surgically implanted into Washington's football player body, with the sexy smile and perfect teeth? I know that we are supposed to accept them as they are or leave it alone but have we ever wanted to mix and match the people we've dated to create the perfect man or woman for us?
Just a thought. *shrugs*
...to be continued
Showing posts with label Is it Wrong. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Is it Wrong. Show all posts
Wednesday, June 2, 2010
Tuesday, March 9, 2010
Is It Wrong? - In Life there are passengers and there are drivers...
We've all seen the commercial or heard the saying,
So is it wrong to sometimes want to be a passenger or should we strive to always be in the driver seat? Any thoughts?
I don't know. Sometimes I like to be the passenger taking in the scenery if you will. But driving definitely has its perks.
What say you?
"On the road of life there are passengers and there are drivers..."
So is it wrong to sometimes want to be a passenger or should we strive to always be in the driver seat? Any thoughts?
I don't know. Sometimes I like to be the passenger taking in the scenery if you will. But driving definitely has its perks.
What say you?
Monday, March 1, 2010
Is It Wrong? - Non-negotiables
Is it wrong to have non-negotiables when it comes to relationships? Non-negotiables are those things that you just can't compromise on. They are different for everyone. Some of mine are faith in Jesus Christ, no excess cursing, integrity, faithfulness, good hygiene, tall among others.
Many people may not understand why they have been "disqualified" (if you will). With that being said, is it necessary to accept them even if they don't "cut the mustard" as the saying goes? Because somehow they will be hurt. (For example, Its not like ya'll didn't have chemistry you just couldn't see how your lights out by 9 pm life fit with ther party all day and all night mentality) Should you feel bad because they don't meet the standards you set? Should you relax your standards in any way? Do you feel that compromising your non-negotiables will make you happy or only make you miserable and bitter later down the line?
What I find interesting is that when you refuse to compromise your non-negotiables with a man he gets offended, like you've hurt him or don't care about him yet when you ask that he compromise a non-negotiable either you take it (deal with it) or leave it. Then if we decide to leave it they get upset.
How is that fair? I compromise but you don't. Somethings wrong with that picture.
So is it wrong to have non-negotiables? What are some of yours?
... to be continued
Many people may not understand why they have been "disqualified" (if you will). With that being said, is it necessary to accept them even if they don't "cut the mustard" as the saying goes? Because somehow they will be hurt. (For example, Its not like ya'll didn't have chemistry you just couldn't see how your lights out by 9 pm life fit with ther party all day and all night mentality) Should you feel bad because they don't meet the standards you set? Should you relax your standards in any way? Do you feel that compromising your non-negotiables will make you happy or only make you miserable and bitter later down the line?
What I find interesting is that when you refuse to compromise your non-negotiables with a man he gets offended, like you've hurt him or don't care about him yet when you ask that he compromise a non-negotiable either you take it (deal with it) or leave it. Then if we decide to leave it they get upset.
How is that fair? I compromise but you don't. Somethings wrong with that picture.
So is it wrong to have non-negotiables? What are some of yours?
... to be continued
Saturday, February 27, 2010
Say It Ain't So
Marvell tell me you didn't do it. :(
... to be continued
Ex-sportscaster Marvell Scott claims he's been framed after being charged with raping 14-year-old
THk... to be continued
Monday, February 8, 2010
Is It Wrong? - A Relationship for Relationshipsake
Is it wrong to be in a relationship just because you don't want to be alone? That seems like a logical no answer but many of us do it. Why do we feel the need to be with someone even if its unhealthy? Even if we know we're not ready? Even if we know that we're not right for each other, wanna kill each other?
What is it about being in a relationship that we go from rational people to irrational, lovesick puppies?
So is it wrong?
What is it about being in a relationship that we go from rational people to irrational, lovesick puppies?
So is it wrong?
Wednesday, November 11, 2009
Is It Wrong? - Withholding the Truth
I feel like I'm always prefacing my posts these days with an I'm sorry. But I've been so busy lately I haven't had the time to post. But I've got a lot of stuff in me so I'll be updating u in the next free days.
But this is it wrong is about withholding the truth or a lie by omission. Now this has always been a hard one for me cuz I've never considered this lying I just didn't tell you cuz you didn't ask. Now I'm not talking about cheating or anything like that.
Last night Washington said to me, "So ur not keeping stuff from me?" to which I answered, "Nope". Now after I said it I thought, well I haven't told him everything. He's asked me about the guys I dated but I haven't told him about Mr. E or the Personal Trainer. Why? I guess because I never actually went on a date with them it didn't seem necessary to divulge. But maybe I should have. Is that a lie by omission? I haven't told him that I still keep in touch from time to time with The MC of that the Personal Trainer wants to see me when he comes up here from GA this month (Will post on this later). I mean I answer all his questions truthfully and honestly these things just never come up in conversation. (Wait, I did tell him about Mr. E I just didn't tell him I still email him every now and again).
So the question is, Is it wrong to not have told him these things? Yes, honesty is paramount to a relationship and I believe that we have that down. He is painfully honest with me sometimes and he tells me everything. But I've never been the type to spill my guts to people. I give them the information they ask for, nothing more and nothing less. But that doesn't mean I'm lying by omission. I've learned that u have to be careful what you tell cuz it can come back to bite you later on so...
Is it wrong to tell the truth but not tell every detail?
Hmmmmm
....to be continued
But this is it wrong is about withholding the truth or a lie by omission. Now this has always been a hard one for me cuz I've never considered this lying I just didn't tell you cuz you didn't ask. Now I'm not talking about cheating or anything like that.
Last night Washington said to me, "So ur not keeping stuff from me?" to which I answered, "Nope". Now after I said it I thought, well I haven't told him everything. He's asked me about the guys I dated but I haven't told him about Mr. E or the Personal Trainer. Why? I guess because I never actually went on a date with them it didn't seem necessary to divulge. But maybe I should have. Is that a lie by omission? I haven't told him that I still keep in touch from time to time with The MC of that the Personal Trainer wants to see me when he comes up here from GA this month (Will post on this later). I mean I answer all his questions truthfully and honestly these things just never come up in conversation. (Wait, I did tell him about Mr. E I just didn't tell him I still email him every now and again).
So the question is, Is it wrong to not have told him these things? Yes, honesty is paramount to a relationship and I believe that we have that down. He is painfully honest with me sometimes and he tells me everything. But I've never been the type to spill my guts to people. I give them the information they ask for, nothing more and nothing less. But that doesn't mean I'm lying by omission. I've learned that u have to be careful what you tell cuz it can come back to bite you later on so...
Is it wrong to tell the truth but not tell every detail?
Hmmmmm
....to be continued
Monday, November 2, 2009
Is It Wrong? - Tattling
I apologize profusely about my lack of posts. This installment of is it wrong is about being a tattle tale. We all have grown up being told not to be a tattle tail. But I'm not talking about kids here. I'm talking about grown people. And I'm not talking about if someone's done a crime I'm talking about petty, stupid crap.
Over the last couple of months I've been the victim of a tattle tale. Now the person tattling on me, who shall remain nameless, is almost 40 years old. Who is he tattling to? My dad. And what about? My facebook statuses and none other than my blog. Now he doesn't know where on the web my blog is but I had been uploading my posts to my facebook profile. Every time something popped up he didn't like I'd get a call from my dad asking, "Can u remove the post?"
So I know that someone had to tattle on me. Now my posts aren't anything crazy. I think they are pretty tame compared to some things on the web and most of wat I post I talk to my parents about anyway because our relationship is cool like that.
What pissed me off is, if you have a problem with wat I have to say tell me directly. Don't call my father so he can discipline me. I'm 23 years old. What is he gonna do, spank me? Honestly, what my dad says to me does pull weight but I've read my blog to him and told him he could read it. I've got nothing to hide. Why is a grown man acting like a big behind baby over a 23 year old's blog? (I have known him since I was a kid but I 'm not a kid anymore) So I blocked him from reading my notes on facebook. That didn't work so I had to stop uploading my blog to facebook cuz I was tired of it.
So the question is, do I have the right to be pissed off? I'm even more hot over this cuz its a grown person who should know better than to play these little childish games. I know I can't please everybody but people have the balls to come to my face and tell me wat's up. Calling my dad is not even close to how grown folks handle issues.
So is it wrong to be a tattle tale?
... to be continued
Over the last couple of months I've been the victim of a tattle tale. Now the person tattling on me, who shall remain nameless, is almost 40 years old. Who is he tattling to? My dad. And what about? My facebook statuses and none other than my blog. Now he doesn't know where on the web my blog is but I had been uploading my posts to my facebook profile. Every time something popped up he didn't like I'd get a call from my dad asking, "Can u remove the post?"
- I know my dad didn't read the post/status
- My dad doesn't have facebook
- My dad doesn't even know wat a blog is
So I know that someone had to tattle on me. Now my posts aren't anything crazy. I think they are pretty tame compared to some things on the web and most of wat I post I talk to my parents about anyway because our relationship is cool like that.
What pissed me off is, if you have a problem with wat I have to say tell me directly. Don't call my father so he can discipline me. I'm 23 years old. What is he gonna do, spank me? Honestly, what my dad says to me does pull weight but I've read my blog to him and told him he could read it. I've got nothing to hide. Why is a grown man acting like a big behind baby over a 23 year old's blog? (I have known him since I was a kid but I 'm not a kid anymore) So I blocked him from reading my notes on facebook. That didn't work so I had to stop uploading my blog to facebook cuz I was tired of it.
So the question is, do I have the right to be pissed off? I'm even more hot over this cuz its a grown person who should know better than to play these little childish games. I know I can't please everybody but people have the balls to come to my face and tell me wat's up. Calling my dad is not even close to how grown folks handle issues.
So is it wrong to be a tattle tale?
... to be continued
Tuesday, October 13, 2009
Is It Wrong? - Flirting
Sorry for the long pause in posts. I've been just swamped lately.
So this edition of Is It Wrong is about flirting. To give context, things between Washington and I have taken a pretty serious turn :) which caused me to wondering, "Is it wrong to still be talking to other guys (even if they're just friends) if you're seeing someone pretty exclusively?" When I say talking I mean they send you a message or a text or an IM and you reply. Dialogue a bit.
Now that I'm in this new territory I began thinking should I stop talking to some of these guys? I truly don't mean anything by it. If some one sends me a message that says "Hello, how are you?" my natural response is to reply back. Now my loyalties aren't divided. I know Washington is my sweetie but is it wrong to still entertain these convos? Should I ignore them? I mean they're harmless. And I let them know that I'm seeing someone.
And while still on the topic, does that mean no more checking out guys? No more flirty smiles or glances? Not that I openly flirt with people like that but is that totally out of the question now?
When in a relationship do you have to hang up the flirtatiousness? Is it disrespectful to your partner even if you know that its only talk or only a passing look?
... to be continued
So this edition of Is It Wrong is about flirting. To give context, things between Washington and I have taken a pretty serious turn :) which caused me to wondering, "Is it wrong to still be talking to other guys (even if they're just friends) if you're seeing someone pretty exclusively?" When I say talking I mean they send you a message or a text or an IM and you reply. Dialogue a bit.
Now that I'm in this new territory I began thinking should I stop talking to some of these guys? I truly don't mean anything by it. If some one sends me a message that says "Hello, how are you?" my natural response is to reply back. Now my loyalties aren't divided. I know Washington is my sweetie but is it wrong to still entertain these convos? Should I ignore them? I mean they're harmless. And I let them know that I'm seeing someone.
And while still on the topic, does that mean no more checking out guys? No more flirty smiles or glances? Not that I openly flirt with people like that but is that totally out of the question now?
When in a relationship do you have to hang up the flirtatiousness? Is it disrespectful to your partner even if you know that its only talk or only a passing look?
... to be continued
Monday, October 5, 2009
Is It Wrong? - Self Medicating
So, after what happened with the Personal Trainer I was feeling kinda down. In the midst of that came my topic for this is it wrong.
Is it Wrong to self-medicate. People say when you get hurt that you should share your feelings. Sometimes I don't want to share my feelings I just want to feel funky and bask in the funkiness. Lol. However, I have also realized that there are times that I put on a brave face to show I'm ok but then behind the scenes I'm doing things to make me feel better. What are the things I use?
So far I'm winning on the latter to fronts. Not so much with the food. :(
But, is self-medicating necesarily wrong? I mean if you're not hurting anyone is it so bad to do things that make you feel better to get out of the rut? Sure the extra pounds aren't desirable but if I come out of it a better person, feeling happy is it necessarily wrong to use other things to fill the void?
... to be continued.
Is it Wrong to self-medicate. People say when you get hurt that you should share your feelings. Sometimes I don't want to share my feelings I just want to feel funky and bask in the funkiness. Lol. However, I have also realized that there are times that I put on a brave face to show I'm ok but then behind the scenes I'm doing things to make me feel better. What are the things I use?
- Food - this will be one of those times when I eat things I usually don't eat like a half gallon of chocolate chip cookie dough ice cream with chocolate cake curled up on my bed in my pjs and comforter listening to Roberta Flack, Donnie Hathaway, and company. When I said I bask in the funkiness I meant it.
- Shopping - this is usually when I have an influx of shoes and clothes coming to my house. I online shop so the UPS guy is very familiar with my address. (don't judge me. lol.) Getting nice things make me feel better.
- Men - this is when I'll probably start entertaining a bunch of guys with phone convos or whatever just to boost my confidence. I know this isn't good cuz in the past its led me to do some really stupid things. Plus, I could end up hurting someone.
So far I'm winning on the latter to fronts. Not so much with the food. :(
But, is self-medicating necesarily wrong? I mean if you're not hurting anyone is it so bad to do things that make you feel better to get out of the rut? Sure the extra pounds aren't desirable but if I come out of it a better person, feeling happy is it necessarily wrong to use other things to fill the void?
... to be continued.
Monday, September 28, 2009
Is It Wrong? - Fantasizing
Ok, so is it wrong to fantasize? I mean everybody likes to be able to escape from their present reality every once in a while but can you fantasize too much?
I'm finding that my imagination seems to be on overdrive lately. My imagination has always been active cuz I tend to live in my head a little bit anyway. But I've been fantasizing a lot. Especially right before I go to bed.
While I recommend an escape every now and then when does all that fantasizing become dangerous? When does your imagination become detrimental? Cuz sometimes I don't want to leave my fantasies. I really enjoy them. Lol. But I understand that what 's real isn't necessarily what's swimming around in my head.
So can fantasizes become dangerous? And depending on what your fantasizing about, Is it wrong?
I'm finding that my imagination seems to be on overdrive lately. My imagination has always been active cuz I tend to live in my head a little bit anyway. But I've been fantasizing a lot. Especially right before I go to bed.
While I recommend an escape every now and then when does all that fantasizing become dangerous? When does your imagination become detrimental? Cuz sometimes I don't want to leave my fantasies. I really enjoy them. Lol. But I understand that what 's real isn't necessarily what's swimming around in my head.
So can fantasizes become dangerous? And depending on what your fantasizing about, Is it wrong?
Thursday, September 10, 2009
Is It Wrong? - Moving To Be With The One You Love
So, because of the Personal Trainer I've been thinking about the topic for this is it wrong a lot recently.
The question is, Is it wrong to move your whole life in order to be with someone? No I'm not moving. Me and the Personal Trainer are nowhere near having that conversation. However, it got me thinking about when you're in a long distance relationship isn't it inevitable that ya'll will have to decide if you are gonna move to be with each other or move on? What if your significant other asked you to move? If you have a good job and have established yourself in your state, all your family is there, your friends, etc would you move or even consider it? My mom is all about your support system. I have no better support system then the one I have in New York (I've always envisioned raising my family in NY) but if I was gonna move the only other states I'd move to are Maryland, Florida, or Georgia (hmm) because I know I'd have support there as well but.... I'm a NYC girl and I don't know if I could do it.
Is it wrong to give up all you have in the name of love? Even if what your giving up is better than what you're going to?
... to be continued
The question is, Is it wrong to move your whole life in order to be with someone? No I'm not moving. Me and the Personal Trainer are nowhere near having that conversation. However, it got me thinking about when you're in a long distance relationship isn't it inevitable that ya'll will have to decide if you are gonna move to be with each other or move on? What if your significant other asked you to move? If you have a good job and have established yourself in your state, all your family is there, your friends, etc would you move or even consider it? My mom is all about your support system. I have no better support system then the one I have in New York (I've always envisioned raising my family in NY) but if I was gonna move the only other states I'd move to are Maryland, Florida, or Georgia (hmm) because I know I'd have support there as well but.... I'm a NYC girl and I don't know if I could do it.
Is it wrong to give up all you have in the name of love? Even if what your giving up is better than what you're going to?
... to be continued
Tuesday, August 25, 2009
Is It Wrong? To Admire Members of the Same Sex
Ok, so here is this week's "Is It Wrong?"
Is it wrong that I think woman are beautiful and that I admire them? People will be quick to throw in the sexually aspect. I'm not sexually attracted to them I just like beautiful things. I think God's creation is beautiful and I can see why men be killing themselves over us. We working with some really dope equippment. Lol. If I think a woman looks pretty I'll say to myself wow her body is bangin' or she has a gorgeous face or I just love her shoes. Do I check women out? Sure. I check everyone out. I even check myself out when I feel I done nailed my look for that day. I'm a people watcher. I mean the first thing I check out on a women is her shoes (I'm a shoe fanatic so I want to see whats new and hot), just like the first thing I check out on a man is his walk. (I do it all covetly of course) I just feel like its so taboo for people to admire those of the same sex. If you gotta say no homo everytime you say someone of the same sex looks good its taboo. I say if your smokin' hot you are (male or female) and I won't hate, I'll appreciate your beauty (while I quietly wish I had it like that). To me its all good. Hey, I think Jada Pinkett-Smith is one of the baddest females out there. But is it wrong?
... to be continued.
Is it wrong that I think woman are beautiful and that I admire them? People will be quick to throw in the sexually aspect. I'm not sexually attracted to them I just like beautiful things. I think God's creation is beautiful and I can see why men be killing themselves over us. We working with some really dope equippment. Lol. If I think a woman looks pretty I'll say to myself wow her body is bangin' or she has a gorgeous face or I just love her shoes. Do I check women out? Sure. I check everyone out. I even check myself out when I feel I done nailed my look for that day. I'm a people watcher. I mean the first thing I check out on a women is her shoes (I'm a shoe fanatic so I want to see whats new and hot), just like the first thing I check out on a man is his walk. (I do it all covetly of course) I just feel like its so taboo for people to admire those of the same sex. If you gotta say no homo everytime you say someone of the same sex looks good its taboo. I say if your smokin' hot you are (male or female) and I won't hate, I'll appreciate your beauty (while I quietly wish I had it like that). To me its all good. Hey, I think Jada Pinkett-Smith is one of the baddest females out there. But is it wrong?
... to be continued.
Tuesday, August 18, 2009
Is It Wrong?
Ok. I want to try something new. It's called, "Is it Wrong?" I'm gonna blog about some of the things that go on in my wild and crazy imagination and you tell me... if its wrong, if its right, or whatever else you might want to say. So here is the first one....
Is it wrong that every time I see my financial advisor I think "Man I would love to do the grown up (as my sis calls it) with him"? He makes me hot and I, for the life of me, don't know why. He's a good looking older gentlemen. Very nice dresser, educated, beautiful chocolate skin, sexy lips, and hails from the land of my kinsfolk too. (Ok, so I take it back. I know why he makes me hot I just shouldn't be feeling like that) And I'm very attracted to him. Now I know that the reason I'm meeting with him is so that I can keep my finances in order but sometimes I wonder what else he can keep in order for me. Now I would never do anything, (I'm a good girl ;) and besides he's my parent's advisor too) but boy do I wonder, especially during our meetings. I have to keep myself from turning my flirt on cuz that would just be inappropriate. But there's nothing wrong with thinking that it would be totally hot if we got it on real quick behind his desk, right? I'm just saying.
... to be continued.
Is it wrong that every time I see my financial advisor I think "Man I would love to do the grown up (as my sis calls it) with him"? He makes me hot and I, for the life of me, don't know why. He's a good looking older gentlemen. Very nice dresser, educated, beautiful chocolate skin, sexy lips, and hails from the land of my kinsfolk too. (Ok, so I take it back. I know why he makes me hot I just shouldn't be feeling like that) And I'm very attracted to him. Now I know that the reason I'm meeting with him is so that I can keep my finances in order but sometimes I wonder what else he can keep in order for me. Now I would never do anything, (I'm a good girl ;) and besides he's my parent's advisor too) but boy do I wonder, especially during our meetings. I have to keep myself from turning my flirt on cuz that would just be inappropriate. But there's nothing wrong with thinking that it would be totally hot if we got it on real quick behind his desk, right? I'm just saying.
... to be continued.
