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Thursday, April 29, 2010

I Seriously Considered....

getting back with Washington.

After we broke up my emotions were a wreck. Then after I visited him back in March all those feelings and how easy it was came back. Until...

We talked about my faith again. Everytime he would remind me why I broke it off in the first place. Now for someone who wants me back you'd think he would at least come to church when I invited him. (He would always tell me he would come to church if I asked. Yeah right.)

So we started hanging out more. He took me out for my birthday and we hung out 2 more times after that but I realized that nothing had changed to caused me to take him back. And he didn't want to change and I wasn't willing to compromise on my non-negotiable.

So now... I know I can't go back if all I'm going back to is what made me walk in the first place. What was the point of the break up if I go back and nothing has changed?

The problem is that I would want to be friends but there is still to much there. He's fun to hang with, I feel comfortable, and I can relax. When you're friends with someone you can agree to disagree on almost anything as long as your respectful about it. When in a relationship its different.

This is new territory for me. I've never done the ex as friend thing so we'll see if this works.

... to  be continued

2 comments:

JStar said...

Ex as a friend, DOESNT work...Because there was once something there and that comfort zone is already...Its a set up, dont fall for it!!! If its over, let it go...Seriously, I learned the hard way...My ex and I were friends 19 years, and then went back there and "tired" the relationship thing...DIDNT WORK...I cried all day long, but I had no choice but to let the friendship go...I couldnt move onto where I wanted to be with him still in my life...

And I am with you on the faith thing...A relationship built in faith will be strong...I dont want to go to church alone if I am married...I can, and will...but I want a relationship that has church and faith as a foundation...

Chymere said...

hmm I don't know how I feel about the ex with friends. I don't think it can work just based off of experience. You always entertain old feelings...and the past is no long relevant. You can't move forward by backtracking.

my advise: Let go.

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